Author: Tran_margaret

A lot of things had happened in my life and i wanted to share with the world in hope with my experiences may help others who were in shoes but don’t know how to get out.

In order to do that I have to break myself out of a shell and out of my comfort zone, and learn how to be in front of the camera, on the radio, and/or on TV, therefore I heard of this group on Facebook and decided to join #BeonTVBootCamp.

I learned so much here just two or three days in. One thing I truly loved was to write a list of 10 Bad Ass Moments in My Life. After writing these items down, I felt empowered and accomplished.

Here is a list of 10 Bad Ass Moments in My Life:

1)Came to the United States without knowing or speaking  the language.

2)Joined the Army.

3)Moved out be on my own since the age 18 and owned my first business at the age of 22.

4)Overcame the molestation.

5)Overcame the depression after the grief  of my mother’s death. 

6)Wrote and self-published a book called “The ACTIONS”

7)Found my biological father, and 3 half-sisters.

8)Opened a nail/spa salon during the pandemic.

9)Found #BeonTVBootCamp.

10)Successfully learned how to trade stocks and being a day trader.

PS: I will post my video sharing my favorite bad ass moment. 

Question for you:

Which one do you think is my favorite bad ass moment I’m going post video about?

I’ve read a quote by Nelson Mandela — “It’s always impossible until it’s done!” It’s true! We always think it’s impossible to start doing things that are out of our comfort zone. Yet if you put your mind to it and take actions then everything is possible.

My mother’s death affected my family, relationship with my husband and took such a major the emotional toll on me. I broke down physically, mentally, and spiritually. I had suicidal thoughts everyday. For four years, life and family were difficult.

However, the inner healing journey had inspired me to become a writer in hope to help and guide people so they can embrace happiness in their lives. But before becoming an author, one of my family members had told me that my English is not good enough and no one will read my book. I actually believed it. Fortunately, not long later, I decided to proof that I can write a book and I did!

My book is a motivational self help book with 7 steps ACTIONS Methodology guide to help women who had lost their loved ones on how to break past their grief and regain their daily life purpose. 

As you notice the word ACTIONS, the Cambridge Dictionary defines it as the process of doing something, especially when dealing with a problem or difficulty. Be aware and extremely conscious about your thoughts all the time. Most of the time, we don’t notice our thoughts – they go on in the background, helping us make decisions and carry out many tasks automatically. Thoughts turn into emotions then turn into actions. I did just that!

Recently, I joined Medium.com and wrote my first article. You can read it here. It took me awhile to take this big step writing on someone else platform. I am new at their platform, but importantly, I did it.

It’s always possible if you put your mind to it and take action. Your actions build your life!

I always heard about self-love, but honestly never knew its meaning until my experience was shattered. I had to work through molestation as a young child, and later in life, the death of my mother. I felt ashamed and lost in depression and anxiety for years. I didn’t invest in myself and just tried to get by. 

I’ve gotten many reminders throughout life. I grew up with my adoptive mother’s boyfriend’s molestation and his words, “don’t be a whore like your mother.” There were many facets of dealing with this new world and way of life, but the biggest obstacle to the tackle was inside.

After my adoptive mother’s death, going through drowning in suffering, depression, suicidal despair and fear that brought me to the verge of collapsing physically and mentally. I realized that I have to have a relationship with myself. I’ve got to love myself first before I could give it out to anyone else.

I decided to fight back and stand up for myself and demand respect, but needed the foundation of knowing my self-worth before beginning that fight. I may continue to lose battles, but I am now strong enough to believe that I will win the war. 

One of the big realizations I had though was that I have a lot of people who love me, people I love and respect, and when I don’t love myself, it’s an insult to their judgment. When I have trouble loving myself for my own sake, I remember that and try to love myself for the sake of those who love me.

My confidence, my energy, my perception of my health and my physical attractiveness is all a product of my inner voice, and the version of the story I narrate. Yes—people can say or do things that influence how you perceive yourself, but ultimately, my relationship with myself, my acceptance of my gifts and faults, is what drives my perception of self worth. The nicer I am to myself, the more I surround myself with thoughts, people, and beliefs that promote a positive self—and the better I feel. 

I understood that everything can be overcome if you manage to put yourself first from time to time. I have learned to allow me to accept who I am, self-love and appreciation.